Before You Choose Your Flowers, Choose the Feeling
One of the first questions couples often ask is, "What flowers should we have?"
It's a natural place to start—but it's not where I begin my consultations.
Before we talk about garden roses or cosmos, color palettes or centerpieces, I like to ask a different question:
How do you want your wedding to feel?
Because when your guests leave at the end of the night, they probably won't remember the exact flower varieties in your bouquet. What they'll remember is how your wedding made them feel.
Did it feel warm and welcoming?
Romantic and intimate?
Elegant without feeling formal?
Relaxed, joyful, and unmistakably you?
Those feelings become the foundation for every design decision that follows.
Flowers Tell a Story
Flowers are more than decoration. They help tell the story of your day.
A garden-inspired wedding filled with airy blooms, abundant greenery, and soft movement creates a very different atmosphere than a celebration featuring sculptural arrangements and a refined monochromatic palette.
Neither is better than the other.
The beauty is in choosing a design that reflects who you are as a couple rather than simply recreating what's trending on Pinterest, Instagram, and TikTok.
Personal Details Matter
Some of the most meaningful design moments aren't the biggest ones—they're the most personal.
One of my recent brides, Shannon, incorporated cuttings from her own pothos plants into the bud vase designs for her reception tables.
It was such a special and thoughtful detail.
Those Pothos weren't there because they were trendy. They were there because they meant something to Shannon and Matt. They added another layer of personality to the design, making the space feel uniquely theirs. Another couple, Sabrina and Clare, chose to incorporate the colors of Sabrina’s heritage and country into their wedding palette.
Those are the kinds of details guests may not immediately recognize, but they feel the authenticity behind them.
Think Beyond the Flowers
When I'm designing a wedding, I'm thinking about so much more than flowers.
I'm considering how candlelight will reflect off the glassware.
How the flowers will look in the afternoon sun versus the evening glow.
How guests will experience the ceremony before they ever take their seats.
How the colors will complement the architecture and landscape.
How movement and texture will bring the space to life.
Flowers are one piece of a much larger story.
Trust the Process
It's completely normal to arrive at your floral consultation with a folder full of inspiration photos.
Pinterest and Instagram are wonderful tools for discovering what you're drawn to.
But instead of asking, "Can we recreate this?" I encourage couples to ask, "What is it about this image that I love?"
Is it the softness?
The color palette?
The movement?
The intimacy?
Once we identify the feeling behind the inspiration, we can create something that feels authentic to your wedding, your venue, and your story—not someone else's.
Your Wedding Should Feel Like You
The weddings that stay with people long after the last dance aren't always the biggest or the most elaborate.
They're the ones filled with thoughtful details, meaningful choices, and an atmosphere that feels genuine.
Whether that's incorporating something meaningful to you as a couple, using colors of the flag of your family's country of origin, or weaving in something as personal as cuttings from a houseplant, those choices are what transform a beautiful wedding into an unforgettable one.
Before you choose your flowers, choose the feeling you want to create.
The flowers will simply help bring that feeling to life.
